Sex is a controversial topic which trends anywhere its motioned. It
is a practice engaged by both the young and old these days. It is
something of concern to note that many young people do not take this
topic serious though the topic turns the ear on immediately its
mentioned. There are several controversies and misconceptions
surrounding the topic.
The first we will be discussing is that a relationship can’t stand
without SEX. This is absolutely false as there are many thriving
relationships out there that the partners don’t engage in any sexual
activity. I was chatting with a girl last year and she told me that her
boyfriend wants it quit because she’s refusing to give in to his sexual
advances. I told her to stay calm and let him go and GBAM!!! That was
the joker. He left and came back with stories….Another friend of mine I
talked to, I told her that about it and she discussed it with her
partner and today, their relationship is thriving. To the guys out
there, I say that “If you haven’t found a better than thing than sex in a
woman, you will never value her.
The second misconception people hold is that SEX is bad and as such
self-service is advisable. Many young people label SEX as being bad
hereby encouraging self service. This is totally wrong because SEX can
only be bad when practiced in the wrong time and form. There are beliefs
associated with having sex because I can remember my mother talking to
me about what holds in her society while she was growing as you could
only have sex when married. The society today permits pre-marital sex
hereby making it a norm to have sex among single folks but it’s wrong to
do so. Those who claim SEX is bad and hereby self service are causing
more harm than good to themselves. My conclusion on this is that SEX is
good when done in wedlock and bad when out of it and self service isn’t
good.
The third misconception is that because some beliefs condemn
premarital sex, I should get married so as to have sex OR in other words
they get married because of sex. Inasmuch as SEX is a pivot for a very
sound marriage It shouldn’t be the reason to get into one.
There is also this wrong assumption that you can make a man stay via
SEX. This is very wrong. No man will love you the more because you are
having SEX with him in a dating relationship.
Always keep that keep in mind else you would easily give yourself out to someone who isn’t right for you.
Singles must be very cautious when it comes to this issue of sex
because it has caused psychological damage to so many that they couldn’t
recover from.
Conclusively, men should endeavor to ENJOY sex with their partners
and anyone who feels regret for engaging in SEX, I dare to say she/he
isn’t ripe for it.
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This is very important for every man or woman in a relationship. This is the easiest way to know if the man or woman is after your money in a relationship.
1. DISCOVER HER HAPPY MOMENTS
If you can spot a difference between her happiest moments and her normal moments then you can definitely tell if she is into you or your wallet. But these ladies can be cunning at times, they can fake their feelings, but if you look beneath the surface then you would know with ease. Is she happy when she’s with you or is she happier when you are taking her shopping? Does she love to spend time with you? By spending time, I don’t mean the usual one or two hours; if she likes YOU for YOU, she would spend loads of her time with YOU. And when I say with YOU, I mean with YOU; not in the shopping mall, not buying jewelleries but with YOU. If you can be able to tell that which makes her happy, then you would most definitely know the lady that’s in love with you or with your wallet.
2. TELL HER YOU’RE BROKE
Yea, you heard me right; remember I told you, you should be ready to take some extreme measures, now this is one of them. Come home one day and tell her things have turned bad in your office or your business. A lady that loves you would still be with you but the one in love with your wallet would bail out on you after a while; that’s if she notices that nothing is coming out of your pocket anymore. A lady after your money wouldn’t have much patience but the one that really wants to be with you wouldn’t mind, she would even want to help in the best possible way, she would proffer solutions and do anything to make you stand on your feet again.
3. HAS SHE EVER CAUTIONED YOUR SPENDING HABITS?
A lady that doesn’t really have much feelings for you wouldn’t mind you spending everything you have on her but the one that loves you and wants a future with you would warn you on how you spend. She wouldn’t even mind that you are spending it on her, she would warn you not to; if you are excessively luxurious, she would try to calm you down. She would prefer you spend on other meaningful things as well; and she would never want her or people thinking she only cares about your money. But the lady that’s in for the money wouldn’t care what other people think.
4. HAS SHE ENCOURAGED YOU TO INVEST?
A lady that wants a future with you would encourage you to go into meaningful investments; she would always want to know how well your business is doing or how well you are doing in your place of work. A lady that loves the money would also want you to invest your money, but she would want you to invest it all on her. She doesn’t care but she tries her best to pretend she does. A lady that loves you would want you planning for the future; how you spend your money on important things matters a lot to her but definitely not the gold digger– it’s always all about her.
5. WHAT DOES SHE ALWAYS TELL YOU?
What she mostly tells you is very important; you really need to have a listening ear which most men don’t have. If she mostly tells you of her plans; then that’s a genuine lady; she has a plan, a goal, ambitions and dreams, she wants to make things happen in her life. But if she constantly complains only about her problems; run Mr run, run as fast as you can and make sure she doesn’t run with you else she would most definitely run you down.
6. GIVE HER YOUR CREDIT CARD
I heard someone shout ‘’are you crazy?’’ No I’m not crazy. It’s better to spot a girl who loves only your money on time than give her your heart and later regret it; by then it would be too late. If you give a decent girl that’s into you your credit card, she would be scared to spend much but if she’s the one that’s loves you for the money, then she wouldn’t mind taking a little more. A lady that loves you would be careful in the way she uses your money because she has a good heart and good intention towards you but the one that doesn’t love you wouldn’t be scared to satisfy her thirst with your money. But please brothers, before you do this it’s very important you heed to this warning; HOLD YOUR PHONE IN YOUR HANDS AND BE READY TO CALL YOUR BANKER JUST INCASE THINGS GET OUT OF HAND. Women can be dangerous.
7. IF SHE ALWAYS BRING FRIENDS ALONG
There is one funny trend I’ve noticed in ladies; if they don’t like you, they wouldn’t mind their friends lavishing your money as well; your cash becomes their ATM. But if she’s into you, she would frown at your spending excessively on her friends, she would draw a boundary on what you give to her friends and she would get jealous if you are over-doing it. But a lady that loves your money wouldn’t mind at all as far as you keep giving her a larger percentage than her friends then it is well with you.
8. ASK HER FOR MONEY
Ask her for money, yes do it; her reaction when you do this would most definitely pass a message. If she whole heartedly gives you the money, then you got a lady that loves you. But if she frowns and complains at your wish, then you need to be careful. A lady that loves you wouldn’t mind giving you all she got but the one that doesn’t would even baulk at you taking her pin. A lady that doesn’t love you is only interested in taking and not giving. If she loves you she would even buy you gifts too but the one that needs the money wouldn’t deem it fit to spend the little she has.
9. DON’T GIVE HER CASH FOR A LONG TIME
This tip shouldn’t bring controversy if a lady is in love with you. It most definitely would if the lady loves money; that’s exactly what she needs, so she has every right to be angry when you don’t do this. The lady that doesn’t love you wouldn’t mind leaving you if you slow down on giving her money; her money (which surprisingly is your money) is very important to her. A lady that loves you might not even notice that you have slowed down on your giving her money. More importantly, a lady that complains when you give her money that’s little is one you should avoid.
10. IF SHE LACKS AMBITION
A lady that lacks ambition is a very risky lady; risky in the sense that her ambition is your wallet and bank account. A lady that has career ambitions would most definitely be interested in her career and would be less interested in taking from a man, even still, she would value her prestige and work hard for herself. But a lady with gold digging ambitions has no ambition of such; her major ambition is finding a man that can provide all she wants.
These tips are practical and would fish out MOST LADIES that are only in for the cash. If you notice, ‘most ladies’ was written in block letters, meaning some ladies are actually deceptive and would break some of these traps; you ought to be careful. It is ultimate for every guy to find a lady that would date them for who they really are not for what they have.
A shocking incident has seen two women fight dirty in public over a man leaving passersby stunned.
The two women fighting in public
Two married women have fought dirty on the road over a man. It was gathered that the two were fighting over a man after one alleged that the other wants to take her man.
The two who could not be separated disgraced themselves by fighting half-n*ked to the chagrin of passersby.
The incident happened in public in broad daylight.
Watch video below:
Shameful! Two Married Women Fight Dirty on the Road Over a Man (Photo+Video)
It is said that the most admirable thing about a woman is self-respect without which she can be trampled on. These are signs that you have got no respect for your own self.
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Here are seven signs you’ve got no self-respect and it’s seriously hurting your life.
1. You’re the “doormat friend.”
If you’re always the one that people ask things for without giving back anything in return, you’re what they call a “doormat.” Do people get away with murder when it comes to you? Are you frequently left picking up other people’s messes? Do people just expect that “you’ll do it”?
If you answered yes, you’ve got no self-respect and are letting people walk all over you.
2. You lose yourself over a relationship.
Do you date men and then in the process, completely forget who and what you are? Do your values go totally by the wayside with the new guy, and do you find yourself doing things you wouldn’t normally do? Are your friends commenting on how much you’ve changed and they aren’t saying it in a glowing manner?
You’ve forgotten who you are and have lost your identity, because you have no self-respect and boundaries in order to stay true to who you are. It’s sad.
3. You act like an attention whore.
It’s not unusual for you to post a half-unclad, or totally unclad or provocative social media selfies. Not because it’s artistic. Not because you want to share a day or night you looked pretty. Not because you’re proud you lost the baby weight or are about to compete in a bikini or weightlifting competition. Not because you’re a model.
It’s because you’re dying for validation that your low self-esteem cannot provide. Instead, you sink to becoming an image or symbol in order to gain attention, which isn’t the same as love. You lack self-respect and self-love.
4. You indulge your bad habits in excess.
You’re drinking, drugging, self-harming, and the list rolls on. You’re punishing yourself and your body. You’re down with a sickness that can kill you. You don’t love yourself, much less care for yourself. You have zero self-respect for yourself and your life. It’s scary and sad.
5. You go out of your way for people who don’t do sh*t for you.
You will move every single mountain for someone who wouldn’t look you straight in the eye for one second if he or she had the chance. You will make excuse after excuse for someone who would throw you under the bus in a heartbeat.
You go out of your way for someone who would do nothing for you. That’s a big sign of a complete and utter lack of self-respect.
6. You tolerate abuse.
You tolerate abusive partners and nasty people because you somehow have bought into the one or two times they were nice to you. Instead of focusing on all that they do each day, you keep remembering the one or two times they treated you nicely.
The writing is on the wall, though, and it’s clear that these “partners” aren’t kind to you. It’s painful for your loved ones to see that you have such little self-respect for yourself.
7. You have desperate, casual s*x.
A woman with no self-respect has s*x in a desperate attempt to make someone else love her, even though that won’t do the trick. A woman with no self-respect will have s*x with someone because she’s forgotten how to say no, forgotten she has the rightto say no, and doesn’t have the strength to fight it.
Ladies, Take Note! These are 7 Signs that You Literally Have ZERO Respect for Yourself
A bride has sparked controversy in the Akwa Ibom after she reportedly cancelled her wedding and fled the venue after discovering that her groom is not a staff of an oil company.
The bride being begged as she cancelled the wedding
According to a Facebook user, Nkiruhomann, who shared the photos over the weekend, a bride who discovered that her man is not a Chevron staff as he claimed to be and called off her wedding in the Eket area of Akwa Ibom.
Below is what she wrote;
"THIS AFTERNOON AT EKET
"Bride just discovered on wedding morning that her husband-to-be was actually not A CHEVRON STAFF.
"Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Badoo etc all said he was a Chevron staff, but the truth was revealed this morning..
"Na wooooooo ohhhh!"
See more photos below;
Bride Reportedly Runs Away from Wedding on Discovering Her Man Isn't a Chevron Staff (See Photos)
A man addicted to s*x has begged for help after he cannot stop cheating on his wife as this might soon ruin his family.
A man who cannot stop cheating on his wife has made a shocking confession. According to Deidre, the married man is looking for help.
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I have been with my wife for ten years and we have a daughter who is six. At first it was OK but things started to go wrong when we got married. I am 38 and my wife is 31. I have a 15-year-old son from my previous relationship. He was jealous when we had our daughter and my wife came to hate him.
It caused huge problems and my marriage broke up over it. My wife and I accepted it was over and started to move on. I met a lovely woman who made me very happy. She is 26, has a great figure and the s*x is brilliant.
But my daughter had an accident and my wife needed help to cope so I moved back. My son has grown out of his jealousy and my wife and I decided to give our marriage a try. We are expecting a baby.
The trouble is that I just cannot help cheating. I am still seeing my lover, though she is getting increasingly fed up with the situation. But I am straying with all sorts of other women too — any opportunity I get. I must have had s*x with a dozen other women over the past months. An especially shaming moment was at my wife’s cousin’s 40th birthday party last month.
My wife was dancing with her cousin and I got chatting to a woman at the bar. I said jokingly that I would meet her outside in five minutes. I never expected her to be there but she was waiting for me.
We were soon having s*x behind some bushes.
I know this is an appalling way to behave, especially for someone who is soon going to be a father again. I want to be so much better than my own father. My dad was violent and walked away when I was a toddler. My mum’s last partner abused me sexually and I still feel my life is a mess.
I Sneaked Out Behind My Wife to Have S*x with Another Woman - Man's Shocking Confession
Many centuries ago, white gown was not the colour bribes wore on a wedding day until something extraordinary happened to make white gown the tradition.
Wedding dresses are white. That’s just how things are.
Doesn’t matter if you literally never wear white in your normal, everyday life. Doesn’t matter if you know, deep in your heart, that you are embarrassingly clumsy and WILL drop something on all that pristine white satin.
Wedding dresses are white, and only ‘unconventional’ brides wear another colour.
Which is a silly social convention to uphold so strictly, really. Because wedding dresses being white is actually a fairly recent fashion choice.
See, just over 176 years ago red was the most popular colour for wedding gowns – probably because of all its ‘roses are red’ romantic connotations.
White dresses were worn occasionally, but its associations with mourning prevented it from being the preferred wedding option.
Even when Mary Queen of Scots picked a white dress, she was widely slammed for being inappropriate – simply for choosing a white gown. When her husband died a few years later, she was accused of cursing him by wearing mourning clothes to the wedding. Oh dear.
It wasn’t until Queen Victoria decided to f*** the trends and wear a white gown that the style became a mainstay of the whole wedding thing.
On February 10, 1840, Victoria wore a lacy white gown with an orange blossom wreath for her wedding to Albert – despite members of the court questioning her colour choice.
The dress turned out to be a massive hit, and soon other women were choosing Victoria-inspired dresses for their big day.
Just a few years later, popular women’s magazine the Godey’s Lady Book proclaimed that ‘custom has decided, from the earliest ages, that white is the most fitting hue, whatever may be the material.
It is an emblem of the purity and innocence of girlhood, and the unsullied heart she now yields to the chosen one.’
And THAT’S where the belief that we’ve always worn white on weddings to symbolise purity comes from.
Following that, people in the Western fully believed that white was the only possible option for wedding gowns. Bustle notes that there was even a catchy poem written at the time, basically calling red wedding dresses – formerly the hot trend – a garbage choice:
So, white wedding dresses: only a thing because of Queen Victoria and magazines. Wear whatever colour you like, brides-to-be.
Reasons Why Bride Wears White on Their Wedding Day
